Everyone can experience grief and loss. Any person can lose someone dear like a relative, a close friend or a pet because death is part of life. To understand grief, one must look at it as a multifaceted response because grieving is not just an emotional reaction to loss. In psychology, besides the affect or emotional response, grief can also bring about social, philosophical and physical reactions.
Just say that somebody in the family by accident died. The direct family may show signs of strong emotions like extreme sadness and anger. Physically, they may hit the walls or become suddenly dumbfounded. Inability to sleep and nausea can also be observable. Socially, the bereaved can withdraw themselves from the crowd. Philosophical reactions on the other hand have something to do with the individual beliefs or faith of the bereaved. Some can experience renewal of faith while for some a strong religious conviction.
Since grieving and loss is inescapable, it can happen to a friend, a celebrity, a neighbor and you. To overcome grief and move on with life, here are recommended tips:
Be aware of The Normal Process Of Grief
Kubler-Ross has named the five stages of grief. As expected, people go through considerable and significant loss. However, there are times when they get stuck in one of the first four stages. Indeed, life can be painful after a loss. But after the last stage, which is acceptance, one can advance with life. Cited below are the 5 stages of grief:
First stage: Denial and Isolation; Second stage: Anger; Third Stage: Bargaining; Fourth stage: Depression; Fifth stage: Acceptance.
It is a necessity to learn that loss and death can influence people differently. Though it is hard, it is important to move on and to accept that death is a fact of life. Release the pain to easily accept loss. If there’s anything that you should keep, keep the good memories.
Look For Support Groups Or Friends Who Can Help You
You can count on true friends who will stick to you through thick and thin. Rely on true friends. Find comfort and solace in their words and deeds. Some will try to uplift your spirit by sending your comforting words and quotes that can inspire you and help pull you through. However be careful and avoid people who disguised themselves as buddies. They are the ones who will entice you to try drugs and alcohol. These people are bad influence. You should not run to them for reassurance, instead these are the people you should get away from. Remember that drugs and alcohol are not the best solutions to what is happening to you. They can only provide temporary deliverance and they can only delay your grieving. And you wouldn’t want that.
Engage In Healthy Activities
They say that the demon’s playground is found in the idler’s mind. Do not just bum around the house, doing nothing. Yes, for the first days, it is logical to withdraw yourself away from people. Conversely it is not the end of the world. Find and engage in healthy activities that can preoccupy you like gardening indoors and going to church. These activities can also help you discover that life is a gift and that everything happens for a reason. Try to find meaning and purpose in your life.
Grieving is hard but people have survived. You can overcome grief and get back to life. Be positive and stay strong. Hold on to your faith and consider the tips above. Remember that life is too short. Your decision today can change what will happen to you in your future.